It is not surprising then that when a beloved pet dies, we experience grief. The death of a pet can be as devastating as the death of a human loved one. Unfortunately, sometimes our grief is invalidated or not recognised as important by others, so while we are feeling sad and mourn the death of our pet, we may not be given the same support we would receive when a person in our life dies. However, it is important to remember that it is not what others may think about how you respond to the loss, what matters is what your pet meant to you. It is normal to experience grief and okay to feel this way. You may be feeling a number of things including sadness, shock or numbness, and you might experience problems with sleeping and/or eating, longing for your pet,  lack of concentration, withdrawal, and disorientation, all of which are common responses to grief.

Having a way of remembering your pet can be helpful. Some people may opt for services that specialise in pet funerals and memorials, others may plant a tree or flowers or place a statue or plaque in the garden as ways of remembering their pet. 

People often suggest purchasing another pet and this may or may not be something you wish to consider. For some, going through the pain of losing a pet may deter them from acquiring another animal ever again. For others this will be an option and the timing of this will differ from person to person. Considering or adopting another animal does not mean you are replacing the one that died, all animals like humans are unique, and only you know when and if this is right for you.

Talking to someone about your grief can help. Having someone who understands what your pet meant to you is important. This may be a trusted friend or family member, or a counsellor. Don’t be afraid to ask for help if you need it. Our counsellors can provide understanding as you navigate this difficult time.

(Some information adapted from National Association for Loss and Grief NSW inc.)